Many School of Life books feel like expanded versions of popular New Yorker, New York Time, or Wired magazine articles. This is actually true for this one... And, we should put our prospective partners through psychological questionnaires and to be assessed by teams professionals. Seperti judulnya, buku ini membahas mengenai realita dan 'kesalahan' apa saja yang diperbuat manusia mengenai pemikiran mereka tentang pernikahan. Beberapa kesimpulan yang bisa kujabarkan sedikit mungkin ini: One of the greatest privileges of being on one’s own is the flattering illusion that one is, in truth, really quite an easy person to live with.

This is the full transcript of British-Swiss philosopher Alain de Botton’s talk titled “ Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.” If we were to take current statistics into consideration, the most realistic wedding vow would likely be, "I promise to stay married to you even if you gain 30 pounds, never change any of the habits that annoy me today, we only talk about our children and we only sleep together twice a year." Alain de Botton ( 1969 – ) penned an astute essay in the New York Times titled: “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person.” De Botton is a Swiss-born British author who co-founded The School of Life in 2008. His books discuss various contemporary subjects and themes, emphasizing philosophy’s relevance to everyday life and offering sound practical advice. His published works include: On Love: A Novel, which has sold more than two million copies, and his newest book, The Course of Love. His other books include:

10) You’ll learn to be yourself

The School of Life (з якою мене познайомила моя bestie в Амстердамі) є ще багато класних життєвих "трактатів", тому зверніть увагу.

It takes a lot of time and work to be able to accept that you will be making mistakes, and lots of them during your lifetime, and that is completely okay. Some time laters, came the Marriage of Instinct, the romantic marriage. If one feels that they are ‘in love’, that fact alone is enough. The love should be the only guide to action. If you’re with someone who has never loved you for you, then this is the time to try to find someone who does.After just a few weeks of counseling, I began to realize that my flaws weren’t the only source of our marital stress; Greg brought his own baggage into our marriage as well. He brought his own imperfections into our marriage. As I began to understand who I was and what I brought to the relationship, Greg also began to understand who he was and what he brought to the relationship. Counseling proved to be the scariest and the greatest thing for me. Greg and I had to throw out the notion that marriage was always going to be as magical as Disneyland. We made peace with the reality that there would be Main Street, U.S.A. moments in our relationship. Still other times we could expect to feel like we were on the Matterhorn Bobsleds — hanging on for dear life. The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist), but the person who can negotiate differences in taste intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the true marker of the “not overly wrong” person. Compatibility is an achievement of love; it must not be its precondition.